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19 December 2009

Dating Internet Style


Should dating become an Olympic sport? It often seems like dating can be a marathon of endless disappointments. Being so busy in today's society, the only way we seem to traditionally meet people is through work, friends, family, organizations, and places we frequent. Wouldn't it be nice to know that he or she exists and when they will arrive into our lives? After going on more than 500 dates myself by the time I hit 29 years of age, I felt that I had dated every type of guy that could possibly exist on the planet. I felt I'd more than trained for finding my soul mate. It can become depressing after a series of dates that do not work out, and you can begin to lose hope of ever finding that special person who can touch your heart like no other. You may start to wonder if you are being too picky and should relax on some of your requirements. But who wants to do that? So wouldn't it be nice to know a person's values, beliefs, future goals, priorities, and compatibility before asking someone out or accepting a date? Think of the efficiency that we'd all enjoy if we dated only people who met our basic requirements up front.

It occurred to me that there must be an easier way to meet the right type of quality people. Why not create a wish list of everything you desire in a partner and see if someone responds? Because if you really think about the concept of dating, we're merely interviewing others to discover potential compatibility. Take me for instance, I created a wish list of sorts for what I thought would be my perfect match and to my surprise I had over 10,000 people respond to an Internet personal ad I placed. This was a bit overwhelming to say the least. Sorting through all these responses to find someone honest and sincere would definitely be a task. But I had discovered a source for dating Olympic style and with a better chance of having my requirements met right from the start: online dating.

To date, most people who surf the Internet are business professionals that utilize the Internet in their daily work. After reading through my responses I noticed that the people surfing the personal ads represented nearly every profession. I could meet anyone I wanted with this incredible tool. The dating Olympics could finally begin! It was now up to me to catch the attention of the type of person I was interested in finding.

During my training, I soon realized that when describing yourself via the Internet, subjective traits should not be included. It is better to focus on the black and white details of who you are and what you are looking for in a potential partner. Traits such as "I am nice, friendly, compassionate, honest, loving, etc" could be interpreted differently among a group of people. We all have different ideas as to what constitutes a "friendly" person. Instead, when you state that you have a college degree, you like horses, and you practice a particular religion, your description is more objective in nature. In this instance, there will be fewer debates as to whether you correctly described yourself. I also suggest staying away from informing people that you like such general things as holding hands, cuddling, going out to eat, watching movies, listening to music, hanging out with friends, etc. Who does not like these things? Tell the world what makes you unique instead of how you are like every one else.

I soon learned that the Internet was the best invention ever. Because in one short year, I met over 100 people in person. And I had not one bad experience. Wow! Meeting so many new friends and acquaintances that had so much in common with me was a wonderful surprise. I knew then that I had to communicate this with the rest of the world, bringing other couples together. I kept hearing too many skeptical people with far too many misconceptions about the net. And I had to set the record straight. Most horror stories came from people who did not take the proper cautions, used chat lines, nor did their homework before meeting them in person. Whether you meet someone in the grocery store or over the Internet, you must use both your common sense and your intuition. So before meeting anyone in person, first and foremost it is important to see many recent non-glamorous images of your acquaintance. This will give you an idea of how serious they are about meeting you, and ensure that the photos they used are genuine.

Of course, the Internet isn't only one way to date Olympic style. If you are young, you may need to date a variety of people to find out what you like in a partner. However, once you know what you want, the Internet can be a very efficient and effective way to become introduced to your next companion. There is no risk to browse the ads and see who is online. You can find a great site and my suggestion to start your search. I found my soul mate online and now it is your turn to have great success. At minimum you can make new friends and have fun dating, Olympic style.


Tips to Remember

  1. Do not put yourself down. If you are insecure about your weight, for example, just be honest about it without resorting to self-criticism. Some people prefer your body type, even if you would prefer yourself a few pounds lighter.


  2. If you are from another part of the world, make mention of that fact. It gives you and your potential matches something to talk about, and for many people it makes you more intriguing.


  3. Mention the internal qualities that are most important for you. If you have learned particular lessons from previous relationships, work that information into the section What (You're) Looking For.

Quick Tips

"When you have finally decided that online dating is right for you a good 'rule of thumb' is "The Bigger, The Better". Joining any of the "Biggest" online services will get you involved and meeting people faster, and having more messages to reply to (and ways to interact) than you can get from dozens of smaller services."